Many parents across the nation have noticed that over the past few years, their children have been experiencing anxiety, anger, confusion, and other issues. While we should note that some level of these emotions is completely normal, we’re all experiencing an uptick in them as we have faced the additional stress that came about due to COVID-19: isolation, lack of in-school learning and social time with friends, the uncomfortable “normalization” of mask wearing and social distancing, and having friends, family, or loved ones become ill and possibly passing away. It’s been a lot for all of us, but has been a special problem for our children because they don’t always understand what is going on. They hear parents and other adults talking, they see the news on social media or on the television, and it’s been scary. Now we have a brand-new situation that is likely going to raise some fears.
Russia has launched a full-scale invasion of Ukraine. Again, you may see an increased level of anxiety in your children. It’s especially hard when the anxiety provoking situation is out of their control. So, what can we do to help our children during these stressful times? Here are suggestions from the people at the Happiness Broadcast:
First, check in with your own thoughts and remember that your feelings are normal, just as they are with our children. Being anxious is a normal human reaction. Although it can be easy to slip into catastrophic thinking (picturing the worst-case scenarios in your mind) during especially difficult times. Talk to your children and see if they understand what is going on, reassuring them that this invasion is happening in another country, far from home.
Limit news intake. Take media breaks from social media and the news. Both can amplify anxiety and be triggering if your child is already struggling. Bear in mind that your child’s anxiety may take another form, such as acting out or having sleep disturbances.
Reach out for help. Allow them to connect with friends and family, and help them to share their concerns in order to relieve stress. Ultimately, if you think that a professional is needed, don’t hesitate to contact them as well.
Fight against misinformation. People hit that share button way too quickly. It is very important to check if the news being shared comes from verifiable sources. Proceed with caution and be thoughtful about what you read and share.
Help the helpers. Evidence shows that helping others can also benefit our own mental health and doing something, anything to help another, will help to give some sense of control back during a situation where there is none. Show your support to the incredible people and nonprofits that provide aid and support to the people of Ukraine. If that is not possible, find any organization that will accept volunteer help and dedicate time with them. Especially helpful would be to find an organization that focuses on something your child is interested in.
And because you know that we’re always encouraging the reading of a good book, here are a few suggestions for your young ones and early readers:
When You Have Love - by Kira Sienes Corona
Psychologists say that the most important thing we can do for our children is let them know they are loved, especially when the world around them seems to be falling apart.
Zen Pig: Here To Do - by Mark Brown
Zen Pig might just be the cutest way to help your child learn how to focus their emotions when they are stressed out or anxious. Zen Pig teaches children the value of gratitude, mindfulness, and compassion in a way that's easy for them to understand.
Everyone Feels Anxious Sometimes - by Dr. Daniela Owen
This book is a self-help guide to aid children in dealing with stress and anxiety, by uncovering their emotions and following a simple calming routine. It educates children on what it means to be anxious and the story gives them real steps to take whenever they feel stressed or anxious.
Yes Days, No Days: The Art of Positive Thinking - by Mia Von Scha and Mirna Stevanovic
This book is perfect for teaching kids that it's okay to have a bad day and that having a positive attitude can change everything!
As always, if we can help or you are interested in more information on ways to facilitate your child’s success, don’t hesitate to get in touch! Please call Betty Bodenweiser at 610-207-7811 or email betty.foundationforlearning@gmail.com for a free consultation.